Tips for Surrendering and Allowing – Part 1

Tips for Surrendering and Allowing – Part 1

Without a doubt, 2020 may have been a challenging year for many people because the adjustment to the new normal was difficult. Not knowing how things would turn out or how they would survive took a mental toll on many. As the year begins to wrap up, and uncertainty still remains the order of the day, have you decided how you will approach 2021?

We recommend you try something new – surrendering. Maybe you have heard the word surrender before but aren’t sure if it relates to you or how even to do it. We are here to share some tips that could help you better prepare for what comes next and let you know how surrendering can make it all easier.

What is surrendering?

Surrender is defined as cease resistance and submit, give up or hand over, abandon oneself entirely to (a powerful emotion or influence), and give in. Surrendering can be a difficult concept for people who like to control every aspect of their lives. Still, sometimes they must let go before they can move forward.

Surrendering is about intention setting by declaring your desire and then letting go of how it shows up. Many people believe that “letting go” means forgetting about something, moving on, getting over it, and so on, but this is not the case. Letting go is actually about allowing inspired action to guide you instead of being led by your idea of what needs to be done.

It is about allowing yourself to admit the truth about where you are and accept that you can do something about it. It is about giving yourself permission to feel and do better. It is about giving yourself the time and resources to get to a better place.

The next time you hear the word surrender, focus on what intentions you are setting and what you are allowing into your life. Remember, everything is about mindset – set your mind on what you want, not what you don’t want!

If you are ready to move forward and surrender, we have one word for you – ALLOW. The first thing to know about surrender is that it is a passive process that creates practical results. There is nothing you need to do to surrender because it is a state of mind — a shift in mindset toward allowing.

If you are unsure if it is time for you to surrender and let go, here are eleven indicators you need to surrender with Tips/Techniques on Allowing.

We will be sharing 5 tips this week and the remaining 6 next week.

Surrender:If you have spent most of your time wishing your life was different, instead try embracing where you are.

Tip to allow: Start today to embrace where you are. Write down or think about three things you love and are grateful for in your life right now. Use these three things for your focus for the next week. When negative thoughts pop up, read, or recite your list of love and gratitude. Use this technique to release the story you keep telling yourself about what you don’t have and instead allow something new into your life by focusing on your blessings.

Surrender:If you place all your happiness on the actions of others, release the hold.

Tip to Allow: Whenever we expect others to fulfill our joy, or we leave how we feel up to others, we give away our power or ability to create peace. Yes, others' actions affect us, but they don't have to get in the way of how you feel about yourself and life. The more you let go of your expectations of other people, the easier it is to accept them as they are. When you detach from your expectations and ALLOW the truth of people's actions, life gets better. The next time you experience disappointment, ask yourself if the actions disappointed you or the expectation of different actions was the disappointment. Once you separate the two, you see the difference.

Surrender:If you constantly judge yourself and the actions of others.

Tip to Allow: When you focus on the traits you don't like about others, it is an indicator that you might be mirroring something you don't accept or like about yourself. When you accept and love yourself, you give the same understanding and compassion to others. What can you do to reduce judgment? When you find yourself judging someone or yourself, ask two questions.

"Are my thoughts coming from love or fear?" If your thoughts are coming from fear, doubt, or worry, trace the view's origin, then ask if the statement is true or false.

Then ask yourself, "How can I show compassion for myself or this person at this moment." Remember, your emotions indicate that something is not right; use this moment of judgment to clear false beliefs.

Surrender:If you feel that there is not enough time for your happiness.

Tip to Allow: Every day you are given is a new blessing to create more. Every moment should be cherished. To release the thoughts about not having enough time, slow down, and focus on the present. Not having enough time is something we tell ourselves when we only focus on what needs to get done rather than how we feel. To concentrate on how you feel, tune into your breath. When you feel like time is moving too fast, use this breathing technique:

  • Find a relaxed, comfortable position.
  • Tune into your breath.
  • Feel the natural flow of breath—in, out.
  • You don’t need to do anything to your breath. Not long, not short, just natural.
  • Notice where you feel your breath in your body.
  • Then to set an intention, repeat, “I am exactly where I need to be.” Repeat as many times as you need.

Surrender:If you can’t remember the last time you did something for yourself.

Tip to Allow: This one is simple, remember no one can do yourself care for you. Schedule time now to do something you love. Make this a regular practice.

Be sure to tune in next week for the rest.

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